You may not think that there is a right way to end a relationship. But you would be wrong. There is a right way and a wrong way. The wrong way would be to not ever call that person again and stop taking their calls. You have to image that you are the other person and the other person is thinking about breaking up with you would you feel so great if someone stopped returning your calls and stopped calling you. If you really were into the person it would hurt you and the goal in any break up is to split as friends. That cannot always be the case but you want to treat that person with as much respect as you want to be treated with.
Another wrong way is to lie to the person for the reason why you are ending the relationship. If they have a habit of being disrespectful then tell them. The reasons why you may be breaking up with the person is due to something that they cannot control. You have heard the phrase honesty is the best policy and sometimes being honest may hurt someone’s feelings but lying to someone is juts as bad.
Another example of right and wrong ways to end a relationship is to break up over text messaging or an email. In all honesty you should be face to face but depending on the reasons why you are breaking up, over phone which at one point was not acceptable is border line. But if the reason why you are breaking up because of a bad temper or something along those lines then you may feel safer over the phone. If you call and get the machine do not break up with someone over an answering machine.
Then you have the very rare occasions of the mutual break up, this doesn’t happen very often in long term relationships but there are those that do experience a stress free break up. Break ups are not easy, they are not easy to get through and they are not easy to do. You don’t want to hurt someone but it has to be. You cannot stay with someone out of guilt or obligation. It would not be fair to either one of you.
You want what is best for you when you end an relationship, you may still have good feelings toward the other person and you may wish them well. But you would be surprised at how many times you hear people are I feel bad and when they say I wanted to break up in June and now it is October but I felt bad because she was depressed or something came up or whatever happened. Unless a death in the family which would not be a great time to break up with someone. Think about how you affect someone’s feeling before you break up with someone because what comes around goes around.
No comments:
Post a Comment